Updated: Sep 13, 2020
My brother is a narcissist and sociopath and it was hell growing up with him. This isn't a new discovery, I've been dealing with that my whole life.
The thing is, I've never really known how to explain it, or what to call it. Combined with my parents' shockingly bad (they mean well, but TRUST ME.. .yikes) reactions to my experiences - I've at times lost all sense of what is real and what narratives I created.
Then, I came across this website: https://narcissistabusesupport.com/how-to-identify-narcissistic-siblings-narcissistic-brother-sister/
Narcissistic siblings make you feel invisible, lack empathy, create chaos around you and blame it on you, and knock you down so you cannot outshine them. Yup, that covers a few of the basics.
I am on to something. This is one of the closest things I've been able to find to describe my experience.When I searched for more about sibling abuse, and in particular narcissistic abuse and domestic violence between siblings, there is shockingly little out there.
Everything feels - a little off. The support groups that feel closest - Narcissistic Abuse, Codependents, Domestic Violence, have content geared towards romantic relationships or parents. I yearn to connect with more experiences like mine...because we are stronger together. We can help others understand it is not their fault - and maybe spare years of hurt and pain that comes from living in the FOG (Fear, Obligation, and Guilt) that robs us of our true selves.
I have 3 kids now and am struggling to set boundaries that protect my kids while feeling the ever present pressure to please my less than understanding family. Is anyone out there with me?